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In order to grow emotionally and spiritually, we have to bond with others. Learning to bond requires the ingredients to life: grace, truth and practiced over time. Learning to bond challenges our old ways of doing and thinking: “To get something you never had, you have to do something you have never done.” Learning to bond requires us to be vulnerable and allow the needy side of ourselves to be shown to others. We have to let down our defenses and allow ourselves to be relationally dependent on others. We have to open up and take a risk to the possibility of being hurt. The following is a list of bonding skills that can be learned and developed.
Challenge your distorted thinking
Our “old maps” keep us from learning the new direction of where we need to go. Doing the things we have always done causes us to repeat where we have been already. The Bible says “Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free” (John 8:32). It is only with grace and truth over time, we learn our way.
Realize the need
When life is not working, we have to ask ourselves: why? Recognizing and admitting that we have symptoms to not bonding and barriers to bonding, gives us insight. The theme of the Bible teaches relationship with God and the Body of Christ is needed for us to grow. Realizing the need is the beginning to growth.
Recognize defenses
Learn to recognize the patterns in how you are operating with others and take responsibility for your own growth. Be the change instead of repeating old behavior: “Oh, there I go again, taking a positive and turning it into a negative with someone who is trying to love me. I will try and let them matter to me this time.”
Move towards others
It is wonderful when others accept us and show us love. Bonding takes being open and proactive. Do your best to reach out to others for help and support. Take risks
Our old ways of thinking and the resistance to truth, keeps us from opening new doors of relationships. Without risk, we cannot grow, learn, or love.
Be vulnerable
Humility and vulnerability are absolutely necessary for bonding to develop at a deep level. Vulnerability is a skill that opens up the heart for love to take root. When you can admit your hurts and loneliness, and ask for help and support, a new dynamic will set in motion that will transform your personality and your life. Soften your heart
When you begin to open your lonely heart, your needy, and dependent feelings begin to surface. Even though uncomfortable, these are the beginnings to the softening of our heart. Allowing the tenderness of your heart to resurface, will give opportunity for relationship and bonding to develop and grow.
Be empathic
Empathy is the ability to share in another s thoughts, emotions, and needs. Empathizing with others and identifying with their loss and pain, softens your own heart and gets you in touch with our own hurt and loneliness.
Get in touch with your anger
Often times, people will avoid bonding because they fear their anger at the very one whom they love and need. It is natural to feel anger to the one you need. Because of our sinful nature, we resent feeling dependent on God and others.
Pray and meditate
Ask God to reveal your heart so you can see your true self. Ask God to unravel the problems of your inability to attach with others. “ For He will deliver the needy who cry out: the afflicted who have no one to help” (Psalms 72:12).
Rely on the Holy Spirit
When we come to the place when we are troubled, we confess our inability and ask Him to help us. “The Spirit helps us in our weakness” (Romans 8:26). Say yes to life
When we are lonely and isolated, we are saying no to relationship. Sometimes we choose to hide behind our walls of denial, or stay too busy for relationships. When we make excuses and avoid intimacy, we are saying no to bonding and no to life. The task of bonding to others and God is one of saying yes to life. When we have realized and confessed our need, taken a risk and make ourselves vulnerable, we are saying yes to life. When we start accepting invitations as they present themselves, we say yes to love. It may mean giving a different answer in safe contexts when you are asked, “How are you doing?”
Conclusion
By looking at the past we can acknowledge our reluctance for relationship. Looking at the present, we can evaluate who is available to increase our relationships. What steps can you take with those people to produce better attachments? How can you make time, change your schedule, and lifestyle to increase your quality of relationships? What difficulties do you envision encountering as you begin to challenge your isolation? What will you do to overcome these obstacles?
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